A Collection of Resources Related To Jealousy
Feeling Jealous is a bad place to be; it can be hateful and drive people to do strange things. The feeling of jealousy gives you feelings of inferiority; you may think less of yourself, and feel bad about your life.
You think less of yourself because you ask why is that person getting the promotion, why is my girlfriend interested in that guy, why does my boss listen to this person and not me. All these questions may be legitimate, but if you look at it from a different perspective, you can learn to accept it or overcome it and move on.
Here are a few examples that can help you deal with jealousy
Your colleague gets the promotion you wanted.
Ask yourself the following questions:
Is my colleague more qualified than me for the position?
What can she do regarding the position better than I can do?
If you find the other person was more qualified then you are, you may want to accept that fact to relieve the feelings of jealousy and allow you to improve if you want, for the next opportunity that shows up.
If you answered honestly and found that there is no doubt that the other person is unqualified, you have to look at why she got the job, and you didn’t. Was it favoritism or something similar? If so, then do you want to work somewhere where core values aren’t practiced?