How To Stop Being Negative
Being a negative person has a few benefits but has many disadvantages.
For example, when you’re negative, you’re always focused on the worst-case scenario. On the other hand, you don’t just jump into things, and you’re very cautious, which can protect you. You can still be positive without losing your “Street Smarts.” You can always perform your due diligence and make smart decisions.
Below are four areas of your life being affected by negativity:
1. Hurting Those Around You
You are probably hurting the people around you because of your negativity, including; family, friends, and co-workers.
Even though they care for you, your negativity is making your relationship difficult for them. They won’t tell you because they don’t want to hurt your feelings. They may dread talking to you or spending time with you because you’re so negative.
When you’re negative, you have a lot of resistance. You become the “No” person. I don’t feel like going out, watching a movie, hang out today, etc. There’s little you can enjoy in life. There’s little you see in life, and there could be many opportunities you’re missing.
You can also be hurting your health. When we’re happy, your brain gives out something called endorphins. These chemicals are good for the cells of your body while giving you feelings of happiness, think of them as feel-good vitamins. When you’re always negative, you’re depriving yourself of endorphins.
You run the chance of becoming depressed, and a state of depression goes right along with negativity. It’s a lot harder to get rid of depression than taking steps to stop being negative.
The Good News is You Can Change
Since you’re reading this article, you are interested in changing and reducing your life’s negativity. The choice to change is the first step, and it’s the most important because if you don’t want to change, very little will make you change.
In this post, you’ll find a collection of resources to help you eliminate the negative behavior in your life. Each article is written by a different author. Therefore, you’re going to benefit from a group of experts rather than one perspective on the topic.
To get the most from the information, take the time needed to go through the articles that stand out for you. You may want to bookmark this page so that you can return and finish where you left off because it’s a lot of information to take in from one sitting.
Before you get to the resource section, I’d like to go over a few recommendations to get you started.
Commit To The Process
You must commit to the process. If you’re not committed, you won’t change. Create a written statement stating you will follow through on the process. This statement is private, and for your eyes only, it helps to hold yourself accountable to follow through.
Create Your Negatively List
One of the first things you can do is make a list of all the negative things about your life, for example:
- I’m always angry
- People avoid me
- My kids are afraid of me
- I feel like I’m struggling in my life
- I can’t seem to get ahead in life
- I feel like I have no luck
- I feel like I have a heart of stone
- I think everyone is out to get me
- I don’t like anyone
- I don’t feel like doing anything
This exercise is vital to open up your eyes to the negative behaviors you have. As you move through the process in the upcoming days, you’ll probably modify your list.
Try and identify those triggers that bring on negative thoughts and feelings. When you identify triggers, you can do something to override them.
For example, if you wake up in the morning and the first thing you do is turn on the news and feel the negativity coming on, then that’s one trigger you now know. Rather than listening to the news, put on some music, or do something that you enjoy.
This doesn’t mean you can never watch the news again but avoid it for a few days to see the changes in you. Then you can listen to the news but don’t dwell on it and be very limited to how much news you take in.
Make Your Feel Good List
You need some tools to help you overcome the negativity. A straightforward way is to create a list of thoughts or activities that make you feel good.
- Your kids
- Your spouse
- Your friends
- Your pet
- Your car
- A prized possession
- Inspiring quotes
- Lyrics to a song
- Something you’re looking forward to
- A time in your life when you were on top of the world
- Something funny
- Listening to your favorite playlist
- Watching a movie
- Taking a walk
- Taking a drive
- Sitting on a beach
- Watching your favorite comedy
- Watching funny videos
- Hanging out with your best friend
Your feel-good list may take a few days to create. Still, once you have it, you own a powerful tool!
Every time you feel negative, or you notice a trigger. You replace the negative thought with one from you’re Feel Good List.
Don’t get discouraged
Change is not easy. As you’re working on this process and fall back into negative feelings, don’t get discouraged, this is normal. Be patient and keep moving forward. It takes time to change negative behaviors to positive ones.
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