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How to Find Your True Desire – Worksheet

June 16, 2018 244 views

I was listening to an interview with Bob Doyle and Jack Zufelt, author of The DNA of Success. Here’s the understanding I got from this interview: Jack’s view is that to achieve a goal, you have to know the exact reasons you want the goal.

This makes perfect sense if you think you know the reason for achieving your goal. If you don’t know the reason, then you don’t have a real goal; even if you achieved the goal, it wouldn’t fulfill your actual desire. Everything you had put into that goal that you didn’t understand would be lost effort.

Here’s what I remember from the example Jack gave.

He was asking a woman in the audience what her goal was, and she gave a dollar figure. He told her, “That isn’t your true goal.”

She didn’t really understand, so he then asked her, “What will more money give you that you don’t already have now?”

She said, “I can quit my job.” He knew that wasn’t the core goal and asked again, “What will that give you that you don’t already have?”

She said, “I can become debt-free.” He asked again, “What will that give you that you don’t already have?”

Now she had to think for a bit, and a tear came into her eye. She said, “A better relationship with my husband.”

This was the true desire: she thought she needed more money to pay off her debts, to release stress, and to have a better relationship with her husband. But now that she knows the true desire, she can have the goal of a better relationship without the need for the money.

A simple yet very powerful technique. Ask yourself the question: what will this give me that I don’t already have? And keep asking it until you get a shift in the way you feel.

Thanks to Jack Zufelt, this technique is simple, and you can do it alone! Try it now.

What’s your main goal?

Answer: ____

What will that give you that you don’t already have?

Answer: _____

What will that give you that you don’t already have?

Answer: _____

What will that give you that you don’t already have?

Answer: _____

Keep going until you get a shift in the way you feel. You’ll know when to stop.

That’s the way I see it.
Acey Gaspard

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